Get Through the Divorce Your Ex is Determined to Make Impossible, Without Losing Your Kids, Your Case, or Yourself.
I help people navigate high-conflict divorce and narcissistic abuse so they can make sense of what's happening, protect themselves in family court, and trust their own instincts again.
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Nod Your Head if Every Decision Feels Dangerous, and No One Else Seems to Understand Why.
Your friends' divorces settled down after a few months. Yours hasn't. You're up at midnight rereading a text that sounds calm, maybe even kind, trying to figure out if it's actually a threat. Everyone else still thinks they're a great person. So you're not just fighting them. You're fighting a version of them nobody else can see.
You're not losing your mind. I know, because I was there.
Ibelieveyou.
meet jody
I’ve Been Where You Are.
Now I’m Here to Help.
I’m Jody Bauer, founder of Solidarity Consulting. I spent 20 years in a marriage that looked very different behind closed doors than it did to everyone else. When I went through my own divorce, I discovered just how difficult it was to make others understand what I was experiencing.
After 28 years as a Nurse Practitioner, I’d built a career around recognizing patterns and making sense of complicated situations. Today, I combine that clinical experience with specialized training and firsthand understanding to help others navigate high-conflict divorce.
I know what it’s like to feel misunderstood. And how much it matters to have someone in your corner who gets it.
28 Yearsas a Nurse Practitioner
200+Clients Served
Coercive ControlCertified Trauma-Informed Clinician
Narcissistic AbuseCertified Treatment Clinician
High-Conflict DivorceCertified
Get the Support You Need to Navigate a Divorce with Someone Who Won't Play Fair.
It's time to finally make sense of their behavior and protect yourself while holding onto your kids, finances, and judgment along the way.
Your therapist helps you process, and your attorney handles the law. I'm the layer in between… the one who will help you communicate in a way that your attorney will understand, that minimizes conflict with your co-parent and helps you hold on to yourself in the process.
My mission is to help you feel understood, empowered to trust your own judgement, and equipped with a clear plan for moving forward.
See how I can helpPersonalized Support to Help You Move from Confusion to Clarity
1:1 Strategy Sessions
Together, we'll review your documentation, parenting plan, and specific situation so you always know what to expect and how to respond in court, co-parenting, and everywhere in between.
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Real-Time Consulting
Bring your most pressing issues and get a real answer right away, so you can respond with confidence instead of panic.
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Support Group
Connect with other people navigating the same kind of divorce, learning the patterns together, and building the strength you need that's harder to find on your own.
Learn moreHere's How You Get Through This, One Step at a Time
01
Understand What You're Dealing With
Learn to see their behavior as the pattern it is, so the chaos stops feeling personal and starts feeling predictable.
02
Learn to Protect Yourself in Family Court
Get the language and strategy to document, communicate, and present yourself in a way that holds up in court, without playing their game.
03
Rebuild Confidence in Your Judgment
Stop questioning your gut instincts and start making decisions for your kids and your future with a clear head, not a flooded nervous system.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are the signs of a high-conflict divorce?
High conflict does NOT mean two people who are refusing to get along. High conflict means you are dealing with an antagonistic personality, regardless of any official diagnosis. While your goals are likely to move through the process, be fair, be respectful and center the kids, theirs are to self protect, blame and win. It often involves drawn out legal proceedings, frivolous motions, uncooperativeness and hostility.
What is coercive control, and how can it affect a divorce?
Coercive control is a pattern of behavior used to intimidate, isolate, manipulate, or restrict another person's independence.
During separation or divorce, coercive control may continue through financial pressure, threatening communication, interference with parenting arrangements, or other attempts to maintain power over a former partner.
Recognizing these patterns can help you document concerns, communicate more intentionally, and work with appropriate legal or other professionals to understand your options.
What does a high-conflict divorce coach do?
A high-conflict divorce coach provides practical guidance for people navigating difficult divorces involving ongoing conflict, challenging communication, or patterns of coercive control. You cannot treat these types of divorces like those involving two people who just want what's best for the kids. These are not "good people on both sides" divorces and they require a very different approach.
I teach de-escalating language and help identify predictable abusive patterns. I also help clients understand relationship dynamics, organize documentation, prepare for complex conversations with their attorneys, and develop strategies for managing difficult interactions.
Unlike an attorney or therapist, my role focuses on helping you navigate the day-to-day challenges of a high-conflict divorce with greater clarity and preparation. I help my clients see beyond the chaos and the terror to identify their long-term goals and strategize to get there.
How do I know if my situation is bad enough to need help?
You don't have to wait until things get worse to ask for support. Anyone going through a divorce needs extra support. If you are wondering if your relationship is unhealthy or abusive, it likely is. Getting a plan in place with an expert in these personality types BEFORE you leave can save you thousands of dollars.
If you're constantly second-guessing yourself, losing sleep over difficult interactions, or feeling overwhelmed by decisions about your divorce, those are valid reasons to reach out.
You don't need to prove that your situation is serious enough or have the right words to describe what's happening. We can start by making sense of it together.
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Get grounding, trauma-informed guidance on navigating high-conflict divorce, including the patterns to watch for, language to use, and reminders that you're not the one who's losing it.
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